WEDDING DAY GUIDE
HINTS & TIPS
Patrick Alexander Photography
Edinburgh Wedding Photographer | Wedding Filmmaker | Scotland Videographer
The time is finally here to start counting down to your big day!
You are likely overwhelmed with all the wedding information out there, but don’t worry - you’re not alone. I’m here to help you document one of the biggest days of your life so you have beautiful memories for years and years to come.
The information in this planning guide is meant to help you through all of your photography related and some not photography related questions so you can relax and get excited for your big day. All I want you both to do is have fun!
If you still have questions, don’t hesitate to get in touch by phone or email, I’m here for you every step of the way :)
// PRE-WEDDING //
A pre-wedding shoot can help you get comfortable in front of the camera, which will come in handy on your wedding day! It also provides a great way for me to get used to working with both of you before the big day arrives. Not only does this mean more time spent getting photos captured but it also means you’ll be more familiar with how both parties interact with each other which makes capturing those special moments even easier!
You don't want someone that’s a complete stranger directing you on your wedding and causing unnecessary anxieties. If you are still not convinced about it, here are a few more reasons why you may want to consider it.
Before your big day we will have a super informal meeting/coffee chat. I welcome as many catch ups as possible because then it will feel even more natural having me at your wedding. Having an engagement shoot is a great opportunity for you & your partner to really get a feel for how I work, how I take photographs & what to expect and it will give you chance to build up a relationship with me which on your big day will ensure you feel at ease with any directions you get and generally having me around. It’s really important to build those meaningful and trustworthy relationships before your wedding day - it means I know what kind of couple you are, exactly what you are after and you know that you can trust me to get the type of photos you want.
It’s not every day that you have a photographer following your every move taking pictures of you! Couples who have done this tend to feel more relaxed in front of the camera on their wedding day and this means that instead of worrying about being photographed they can get on with enjoying the day, which is surely, what all couples want to do! It’s a perfect solution for shy, unconfident or anxious couples. Doing this also means you can practice poses you have in mind and that you will be happy come wedding day. It will also help you feel more comfortable getting up close and personal with your partner in front of the lens. This often will not feel natural having someone in your personal space photographing more intimate moments, but it can really help with this.
Plus we keep it fun and ensure its always full of laughter!
I really do believe that in life generally (but also during the wedding planning process) that taking time out to appreciate the person you love is so important. Life can be so busy and what better way to spend an hour or two than taking some time out from everyday life to just be together. It’s unlikely that you’ve done something like this together as a couple, documenting your everyday life is just as important as the other milestones in your relationship. Couples these days rarely have more than the odd selfie together, which seems such a shame, this is another reason why a pre-wedding shoot is such a lovely thing to do. Plus you’ll get some nice photographs to display in your home too!
Ultimately I would always urge and recommend you to really just go for it and enjoy the process because at the end of the day this will only happen once. I will never make you do anything that will make you both feel remotely uncomfortable and I’m there to do what is best for you!
// MORNING PREP //
// THE GIRLS //
The morning part of the day is equally both fun and stressful there is no doubt about it. I do enjoy literally watching everyone get ready in amongst the prosecco and make-up. Try to relax because everything is out of your control and all the planning has now come together so you may as well just enjoy the last few hours of laughs with everyone!
Remove all tags + stickers from dresses, shoes etc the night before
Don’t be shy, ask your prep location/venue to put you in a room with the most natural light, your MUA will thank you for this as well!
Pop all of your little details in to a box and keep it beside your dress. This saves us trying to find everything before I need to photograph it. Things to include are: An invite, the rings & ring box, perfume, jewellery, shoes and anything else of importance.
Ask your florist for some extra loose flowers for me :)
Task someone with keeping an eye on the time. Be completely ready and good to go around 30-45 minutes before you leave - This allows time for any mishaps, a drink with the bridesmaids and a few photos... Including first look with Mum, Dad & the girls of course.
Bridesmaids + whoever is helping you get dressed should be ready first.
Take all the flowers out of the water 30 minutes or so before you leave as this will allow them to dry out before holding them next to your dress.
Lastly, remember to have fun! Celebrate your last moments as a Miss - Get the fizz flowing and your favourite music playing!
// MORNING PREP //
// THE BOYS //
The first thing I’ll say is... Don’t stay up too late the night before! Yes you have a far more relaxed morning ahead of you but you are as equally as important to the wedding. Get up, have a walk, go for a run or maybe get a round of golf. Make some breakfast and wait until at least 11am before the beers come out. Enjoy the moment with the guys, they are all there for you so enjoy it.
Make sure all parts to kilts/suits are there and that you have everything you need.
Don’t be shy, ask your prep location/venue to put you in a room with the most natural light or that has a big enough space where you can all get ready together.
Keep all of your details aside for the photographer (if you have a second photographer), Tie, aftershave, watch, cufflinks, sporran, shoes, rings and ring box.
Task someone with keeping an eye on the time. Be completely ready and good to go around 15-30 minutes before you leave - It gives you time to have a drink and get a few photos with the groomsmen.
Pick someone to help with your tie, cufflinks etc. This makes for nice photos and lets your closest feel like they’ve gave you a final check over before heading out.
Make sure to all be ready 45-60 minutes before the ceremony. Gives time for travel and photos of you all putting your button-holes on before guests start arriving.
Lastly, remember the rings and marriage schedule!
// CEREMONY //
The main reason we are all here! Each and every one of us have been building up to this moment and the emotions are real! Try to keep calm though. Your partner is patiently waiting at the top of the aisle and is just as eager to see you as you are them.
Take your time walking down the aisle, enjoy it & share that special moment with whoever you have chosen to walk you down, it will only happen once right?
And to the spouse at the top of the aisle... We want emotion, don’t be afraid to let a few tears show, it just means you give a shit about how stunning your partner is coming towards you!
Take your time, slow down walking down the aisle.
Try not to look at the floor all the way, everyone wants to see your face.
Be conscious of where you are standing, try to keep at centre of the aisle as possible.
Look at each other, hold hands & try to forget about everyone else.
STAND IN THE MIDDLE (Did I say that already?)
The first kiss... JUST GO FOR IT! Everyone will cheer and clap and woooo hooo! The perfect first kiss is 3 Mississippi’s long so have two just to be on the safe side.
Before you come down the aisle together take a moment to pause and get those flowers in the air and have a slow walk down as a married couple! Even stop halfway for another kiss if you want to :)
Go and have a drink and catch your breath whilst I set everyone up for confetti. After this we will then get a group photo if possible and then go straight in to group/family photos. Delegate a groomsman/bridesmaid to help organise this.
You then have the option to have 15-30 minutes to socialise or can go straight in to a few couple photos.
// SPEECHES //
Everyone is getting called in to take their seats for the speeches, this gives you guys a little time together before being announced in. The venue staff or if you have an MC will call you in and the room will erupt! Let’s get napkins spinning and everyone cheering. Pick an EPIC entrance song!
Soak it up and take as long as you want to get to your seats (within reason) haha!
Pick an EPIC song to enter the room, lets get everyone swirling napkins and totally boss it! I can’t explain how good this moment can be.
Side note - It is not often the bride will say a few words, so if this has crossed your mind then I would always encourage it.
// RECEPTION //
Now if the light is playing ball and on our side I will try and whisk you off for some extra photos after dinner or after the first dance depending on how time is.
Everyone gets confused about cutting the cake, it’s not something that is ever explained how to do. The most common way to do it is to stand behind the cake and take a step to one side and cut the bottom tier, if you cut from the top then the risk of a toppled wedding cake is real!
From there the venue staff will move the cake for us and you guys will once again be centre stage for your first dance as Mr & Mrs. Try and keep as centre of the dance floor as possible and have fun with each other! I won’t be in your face the whole time and others will want photos of you both.
30-60 seconds is all I need for those magical first dance photos so don’t be shy, you can blend in after!
If you choose to, the band/DJ can announce the bridal party, parents or everyone else up to join in. Or if you want to have the entire song to yourselves then by all means do it!
I will be there to capture it all and be right in amongst the party! Apologies in advance for stepping on your dress...
HELPFUL? I HOPE SO!
Hopefully this helps a little bit and gives you some insight on how you want to go about your day because remember one thing…
IT IS YOUR DAY!
I am always here to help, guide & advise where I can. I am not an expert but I have seen my fair share of weddings and each one has been so much fun and everyone likes to do things their own way. Even if it is a TikTok trend or an Instagram Reel you’ve seen and fancy trying something like that I will always give it a go!

